Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Most men these days are weak and they make excuses for their own bull and lack. They point the blame at everyone and everything except themselves because that's the easier path. It takes a wise man to look within and make change. If it's your first time here, My name is Michael Riggs. I'm a full time author, artist and entrepreneur, husband and father of five. And I teach men all over the world how to live fully optimized, leveled up lives and how to transform their marriages into the marriage of their dreams. So if that's something you're into, if you want to optimize every aspect, love your life as a man. Subscribe to this podcast or this YouTube channel and today we're talking about how to become the man your family needs and your duty and responsibility as a man. Stick around. Hello and welcome to the Warrior Kings Podcast. I'm your host, Michael Riggs, here to assist you on your journey to living a fully optimized, leveled up life as a man. So again, welcome. Welcome to the Warrior Kings Podcast. It's good to have you here today. It's good to talk to you today. And really quick here, if you're not signed up for the mailing list, what are you doing, bro? Get down to that link in the description of this YouTube video, video or this podcast episode and get signed up for that mailing list. That's how you can keep up with what I'm up to, what's coming next, as well as some exclusive motivational content every week that will be sent right to your email inbox. So get signed up for that. On the last episode I mentioned that there's a Patreon on the way that's based on Warrior Husband specifically where I can post exclusive content specifically about leveling up your marriage. It's going to be exclusive course content and there's going to be discussions as a community on there where I can assist you in leveling up your marriage and we can kind of go on this journey, journey together, right? Because I talk about all kinds of topics here on the podcast. So that Patreon is going to be somewhere where I can focus mainly on optimizing marriage and being a good husband and all that because I know a lot of you listen to my podcast for that content, but sometimes it's few and far between because I talk about so many topics on here. So that's just somewhere where I'm building an exclusive community where we can all get together and focus on that one topic. So that's coming soon. Keep an eye out for that it might be out, depending on when you're listening to this. If it is out when you're getting this, there will be a link in the description of this episode where you can find that Patreon exclusive Warrior husband community. And with that being said, let's dive right into the topic of the day. Most men lose sight of the vision and the mission as life gets busy and routine as time goes on. You know, when you get married and when you have kids and when you have a career and all that, it's really easy to get caught up in the routine of daily life. And most men spend their free time, or even all of their time, all their mental space, on distractions, whatever those distractions might be. Maybe it's watching football, watching sports, maybe it's playing video. Video games, even things like pornography are a distraction. And these distractions keep you from your ultimate purpose. They keep you from the reason why you're breathing. They keep you from the things that actually matter in life. And also these distractions keep you from being the husband and the father that your family needs you to be. And the thing about routine and distractions is that it's comfortable, it's easy. And you guys have heard me talk about this before, that the routine actually works. The problem with the routine is that it keeps you from your purpose. It keeps you from the things that actually matter. It keeps you from realizing your higher calling, your higher purpose. It makes you forget the vision and the mission for your life. And I can tell you right now that these distracted dudes, I can't stand being around them unless it's like a mentorship type of opportunity where I'm teaching them to get out of that way of living, that average guy way of living. I can't stand to be around these guys. There's one guy in particular that every time I'm around him, I promise myself I'm never going to spend time with him again. And it'll be like a huge family get together where everybody traveled to come to this guy's house. It's kind of an event, right? And all he can do is stay glued to the TV and watch sports. And when his wife talks to him, he's very dismissive to her. He's like, hold on, I'll get to that in a minute. He's just so focused on the game that even though the whole family is there to visit and all that, he. He doesn't care. All he cares about is that distraction. And what he doesn't realize is he's missing life he's missing what actually matters. He's missing actual communication with people who he could have true connection with, including his own wife. But all he cares about is this one distraction, this game. And this is getting even worse these days because now you can, like, bet on games on your phone and stuff. So then you get even more invested in that distraction, because at first it might be you're just trying to fit in with the guys and you want to be able to talk about the game at work, because that's what average guys talk about. They don't know how to talk about anything else. So it's like, if I don't keep up with sports, then I'm not going to be able to talk to the guys at work because I won't know what's going on. So that's the first. That's how the distraction starts. And then now people are betting on the games on their phones and they get even more invested. So it completely takes their attention away because now they feel like they have to pay more attention to this thing or else they're going to lose their money or whatever. They feel like they're a part of something. And really what it comes down to is they're not a part of anything, bro. You're watching other people win while you are losing. That's basically what's happening when you're investing all of your time in the distraction that is watching sports. And I'm not saying that watching sports is entirely wrong. It's okay to have hobbies and interests and indulge in things every once in a while. What I'm talking about is when the distraction is all consuming and takes away from your life, your purpose, the vision for the future, where you're going, it takes away your ambition, it makes you comfortable. It's very easy to sit and watch a game and drink beer every time you have a spare minute. It's much more difficult to do something worthwhile, to pursue a higher calling and a higher vision for your life, to build a future for your family. And a lot of guys get wrapped up in these distractions, too, because life is stressful. It's hard. Like, you have a lot of responsibility. You have kids and a wife to take care of. You got to work all day long. It can be really mentally exhausting and even physically exhausting at times. So these distractions are like a reprieve, a break from the complexities and difficulties of life. But the problem here is that life has become so comfortable, so routine, that that's all it is, all it is is reward. You don't have to work for the reward. And bigger rewards take work. They take time, they take effort. And it's much more easy to just sit and do nothing and waste your life away, which is ultimately what you're doing. If you are focused on distractions more than you are focused on what actually matters. And your duty and responsibility as a man is to build future, a life for your family, and not just your family for generations to come. It's your lineage and your legacy. I bet nobody ever taught you that before. And maybe you came from a long line of really average guys. And the way that you're living right now is what you think you're supposed to be doing, but it's absolutely not. This modern way of living has taken away the soul of men. You are supposed to build a lineage, a legacy and inheritance for generations to come. You are supposed to be the greatest man that your bloodline has ever seen, and instead you're busy focused on distractions. That's the problem. Problem. The enemy of your life wants to keep you distracted and knows exactly how to distract you. And the enemy wants to distract you to keep you from realizing your higher calling, your higher purpose, the purpose for your life. And if you're not familiar with modern Christian terminology, when we say the enemy, it's referring to the devil. We just don't like saying the devil all the time. So we say the enemy. It's a lot easier, I guess. But the enemy of your life wants you distracted to keep you down. The enemy wants you comfortable, sedated, lazy, apathetic, caught up in the routine of daily life. Because if the enemy can keep you distracted, then you won't do anything great with your life. And I've learned that the higher your calling, the higher your purpose, the more you will be attacked and tested in your life and in the spiritual. But if you're not even pursuing that thing, if you're not even pursuing your calling and your purpose, the enemy doesn't even have to work very hard. The enemy just says, oh, he's just doing it to himself. He's comfortable. Let's just put on a sports game. You know, keep the sports games coming, keep the beer flowing. This guy will just lay around and do nothing. Wow, easy. I don't have to work at all. The enemy says. So I identify the distractions in your life. What are they? Is it football? Is it video games? Is it pornography? What are the things that are keeping you from realizing your higher calling and the purpose for your life? What Are the things that are taking up your time, keeping you from your family, keeping you from having a real connection with them. And then at that point, once you have identified those things, practice moderation or just cut them from your life completely and realize that there is more for you in this life. As soon as you stop being lazy, apathetic, caught up in distractions and succumbing to the comforts of modern life, you. You could live the rest of your life completely comfortable. As comfortable as you are right now, on your days off, you can watch sports, you can drink beer, you can play video games. You could do that for the rest of your life. That's your choice. Fine, you can be comfortable. It's going to be great. Dude, I'll tell you right now, keep following that routine and it will really work out for you. But guess what? You have absolutely wasted your life. That's the hard truth. Because there was a higher calling, a higher vision, a purpose for your life, and you skipped over it just to be comfortable. There's this concept that goes back to the Roman Empire and it's called Bread and circuses. And the question is basically, how do you keep the people from revolting, from realizing the horrible things that you're doing? You know, conquering other people, keeping other people down, doing all these horrible things, like how do you keep them controlled and not turning against you? And the quote is, just keep giving them bread and circuses. So just keep feeding them and keep giving them entertainment. And they won't try to do anything. They'll just be comfortable. And they say that's how we keep them subdued, by feeding them and giving them entertainment. And if you've never heard that one before, I encourage you to look it up. I'm not recalling the actual history history of that quote right now. I'm pretty sure it came from a philosopher or something, but it's called Bread and Circuses and it's basically saying feed them junk food and give them entertainment. And they won't realize what's going on. They won't realize how powerful they are. And that's very thought provoking. And if you don't believe me that the enemy wants you distracted, trust me, once you start pursuing the calling of vision, like a higher vision for your life, once you start pursuing a better life, you will find that those distractions start popping into your mind more and more. They will be presented all around you. Everything will suggest that you should be distracted. And like said, the higher the calling, the higher the purpose, the more you will be tested and Distracted, trust me. But you have to overcome that. It is your duty and responsibility to your wife and your family to be fully optimized in every aspect of your life. If you're unhealthy, if you're distracted, if you're unmotivated, if you lack ambition, how are you going to give your family the life in the future that they deserve? It is your responsibility to your wife and to your family to be a leader, to lead your household. It is your duty and responsibility to your wife and to your family as a man to lead them with wisdom and to lead them in wisdom. One of the main traits that is lacking in men today is the trait of the wise man. Do you lead your family as a wise king would, or do you lead your family like a total doofus? That's really what it comes down to. That's really the question. Are you just an average guy? Do you live just an average life? When your kids need guidance, do you give them guidance? When your wife needs you to lead her, do you lead her? And I'm not talking about being loud, boastful, or bossy. I'm talking about being a wise man and making decisions. It is your duty and responsibility as a man to handle the logistics and complexities and business of life. And if your wife is having to handle all of that for you because you're so lazy, distracted, and apathetic and lack drive and ambition and don't want to have anything to do with anything, then you are not leading your family in your household as a man should, as a wise king should. As a wise man, would you have to lead your family with wisdom? I want you to begin viewing your responsibility to your family as a man, differently than the modern man does. You have to rise above that, because what you should be doing is building a lineage, a legacy, an inheritance for your family and for generations to come. Come. Begin thinking of yourself as a king, not just the average boring man. I want you to get so optimized in your life as a man that you look at average men and say, man, if only they knew. If only I could teach them. If only I could show them what is possible in their lives. Because I used to be like that. I want you to look at average men and say, I used to be like that. Start viewing your responsibilities as a man differently than the modern man does, and realize that following generations depend on it. What your kids learn from you, they will pass on to their kids and their kids to their kids. Be the example. Be the greatest man that your bloodline has ever seen break generational curses. Say to yourself, my family line starts with me. Everybody who came before me has nothing to do with that. I establish it right now in stone. A new family line, a new lineage, a new legacy starts right now with me. And that's what I did for myself. I don't know if you can see it, but there's a family crest behind me that I designed and I will pass that down to my sons. And that might sound kind of silly to the modern person, like a family crest and all that. Wow, you think so highly of yourself. Yes, I do. I decided I'm starting my family line right now. I will raise my sons up into their callings and their purposes, and I will raise them to be strong, honorable men of God. I decided that. I said, my family line, my lineage, my legacy starts right here with me. A new bloodline starts with me. I decided to view my life and my responsibilities and my duty as a man differently than the average man does these days. And ever since then, my life has gotten better and better and better. In order to become the man that your family deserves, that your wife deserves, you have to think higher of yourself. You are not just an average guy living at average boring life. You are not succumbing to the comforts of modern life and the distractions of modern life. You have to rise above these things. You have to reach your full potential. You have to get better every single day. You have to get optimized in every aspect of your life, mind, body and spirit. Because it's not about you, it's about them. It's a sacrifice of self. It's saying, I give me for them. Is it going to be difficult to become the best version of yourself? Yes, at times it's going to be difficult. Is it going to be difficult pursuing the calling of purpose for your life? Hell yeah, it's going to be difficult. But that's deciding. It's going to be difficult for me, so it doesn't have to be difficult for them. Do you think that I want to wake up at 4am every single day and work from then all the way until I go to sleep at night? No, I don't. I would love to just take a break and sit down and watch some TV or play a video game or something, but I don't do that. I decided not to do that anymore, bro. All I do is work. All I do is build my dream life. All I do is build my future. All I do is build a future for my family. That's what I do. I made that decision. I sacrifice myself for them every single day to build what I'm building. I found the calling and the purpose for my life, and now I pursue that thing relentlessly. And now I have the opportunity to teach that to men all over the world. And what's more fulfilling, being comfortable having a good time or truly building something? What's more fulfilling? Ask yourself that. So no longer will you succumb to the comforts of modern life. No longer will you succumb to distractions, to let everything distract you, to make things that are completely meaningless more important than the things that actually matter. You are going to rise above and become everything that you are always meant to be. Everything that truly deep down that you wanted to be, that you knew that you should be. It's time to become that. You're going to get optimized in every aspect of your life. There are great things in store for you in this life. A life of overflowing abundance awaits you on the other side of you deciding not to be average anymore, on some level, let average disgust you. Take a look in the mirror and be like, this guy dies today and the new guy is born. A king is born. Establish it today. My family line starts with me. The greatest man that my family line has ever seen is born today. And then get to work. Your wife deserves the best you. Your children deserve the best you. Everyone in your life deserves the best you. You just have to become that for them. Like I said, it's a sacrifice of self. It's really easy to be comfortable. It's really easy to have a good time every day. It's really easy to take a day off to detach, to have some reprieve. Oh, I'm just so worn out. I need some rest. I need to lay around in sweatpants and scratch my nuts and watch sports and drink beer. Super easy. Dude, like I said, if you want to do that for forever, it's super easy. Go ahead, fine, do that. But trust me, there is so much more for you if it's your first time here. I put out a book in January called Warrior Husband how to be a better husband and save your marriage. And that's a book that's written for all husbands. It's not just if your marriage is falling apart and you need to save your marriage. But, hey, maybe it is. Maybe you're realizing that I put everything that I know about marriage and relationships and communication with women in that one book to teach men all over the world how to become the best husband. That they can be. It's already sold hundreds of copies. It's changing lives everywhere. I've gotten tough tons of messages and comments from guys telling me how much it has changed their life. And I want it in your hands. So definitely grab a copy of that book if you don't have it yet. It's available in ebook, paperback, and audiobook, depending on which one you prefer. Personally, I like a real physical book. I like to use a highlighter and really dive in and get deep on it. But the ebook and the audiobook are available if you want it to be a little more convenient than ordering a book and waiting for it. But I recommend an actual book. It's more of a commitment, in my opinion. And hey, if you can't get a copy of that book right now, because eggs are exp. I will give you a copy of the ebook for free if you just can't buy it. That's how much I believe that this book will change your life and level up your marriage. If you can't get a copy of that book right now, shoot me an email. Reach out to me and I will email you a copy of the ebook. Absolutely. For free. There's no catch, I promise. It's not like, get the ebook and then you have to sign up for my course or something. Literally no catch. I just want that book in your hands because I believe that it's changing lives. Also, if you want to dive deeper on this topic, I have tons of episodes about this same thing, how to be the best man that you can be. So stick around and listen to some more of this podcast. Like I said, bro, there's an entirely different life waiting for you. Because there is a calling and a purpose for your life. And there is a reason that God put that beautiful woman in your hands, that God put those children in your hands. That God gave you that responsibility. He must have believed in you, that you had the potential to be something great, or he wouldn't have done that. So become the best you that you can be. Level up every aspect of your life. Get fully optimized, mind, body and spirit. Pursue that every single day. And a life of overflowing abundance awaits you. The life of adventure and abundance that your wife signed up for. It awaits you on the other side of you making the change. But that's what I got for you guys today. I hope you got something out of this episode. I hope it inspired you in some way. If it did, definitely let me know. And to my regular listeners, if you want to help me reach men all over the world with these messages. If I have helped you in your life, definitely leave a rating and review on whatever podcast platform you're getting this on that helps the algorithm push this content more to more listeners to more men all over the world. So definitely leave a kind review on there and I really greatly appreciate that and I will talk to you guys soon. Get out there. Kill it. I love you. I'm proud of you and you are going to do great things in this life. I really, truly believe that you listening to this right now and I can't wait to talk to you again soon. Thanks guys. Bye.
