Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] You've built the empire, you've built the success. And now you're not sure if she likes you for you or if she likes your wallet. And you're not alone. This is a concern for many men. How do you know she's genuine when you have so much to offer? How do you know if you're being used if it's your first time here? My name is Michael Riggs. I'm a full time author, entrepreneur, men's personal development and marriage mentor, husband and father of six. And I teach men all over the world how to live fully optimized, leveled up lives. So if that's something you're into, definitely stick around. Subscribe to this podcast, subscribe to this channel, wherever you're getting this. And today I'm going to answer one of the toughest questions successful men face. What if she only wants me for my money? Whether you're married, in a relationship or dating, if you've ever asked this question before, this episode is for you. Stick around. Hello and welcome to the Warrior Kings Podcast. I'm your host, Michael Riggs, here to assist you on your journey to living a fully optimized, leveled up life as a man. So again, welcome and welcome back to the Warrior Kings Podcast. It's great to be here today today. It's great to talk to you today. We have just entered week three of our marriage coaching intensive and weeks one and two were super awesome and I'm so glad that I get to connect with you guys one on one and help you level up your marriages and get down to your why. And I'm looking forward to our calls this week. But with that being said, let's dive right into the topic of the day. What if she only wants you for your money? Today we're going to talk about a few things related to this question. And the first thing I want to do today is answer that question directly. So let's say you ask, well, what if she only wants me for my money? Well, let me ask you something. Is that all you have to offer? Do you feel like that's all you have to offer? Because I'm sure if you did some self exploration you would find that money is just a small piece of the puzzle. And is it possible that you are holding some deep seated false beliefs that are holding you back in life? Or as I like to call them, life ruining, fictitious mental constructs? Maybe you've heard before or multiple times that all women want is money. And I'm sure you've heard before that the way to get beautiful women's attention is to have a lot of, and I'm sure you've heard before, that women are gold diggers. These are false beliefs. These are life ruining, fictitious mental constructs. Do women who only seek money and guys who have money exist? Sure, but that's not all women. Most women want a genuine connection with a man who is a strong protector and provider, who is secure and grounded in himself, in his masculine. I can tell you in full truth right now that there are men in this world with incredible mind bending wealth who can't land a date with a high value beautiful woman. And many of them are actually very lonely. So if that's true, is that all it comes down to? Or is there a lot more to it than that? So let me ask you again. Is money all you have to offer? Back when I was broke and didn't have a solid career or any direction in life, I was still dating and spending plenty of time with beautiful women. Well, if that's true, then is money the only way to spend time with high value beautiful women? And I want you to reflect on something for a minute. Who are you without the money? If it were to suddenly just disappear and you were back at square, who are you? What do you have to offer then? And if you can't find an answer to that question, if you can't find anything, then that means that you are finding your value in money. And if you only find your value in money, then you will never truly be happy. You need to dig deeper than that. Money isn't your identity, it's not your personality, it's not who you are, it's just something you have. So reflect on that. If all of your monetary success were to suddenly disappear, what value is left? And you better not say nothing because that's a lie. You're handsome, you funny, you're charming, you're smart, you're confident, you're courageous, you're strong. Saying she only wants me for my money is saying I have nothing else to offer. And you know for a fact that that's not true. You are more than that. So have confidence in who you are. Be so secure and confident in yourself that you think of money as just an added bonus. Find value in yourself as a person on such a high level that you can laugh and say damn, and I have the money too. And by the way, let's say you realize that someone is using you. When have confidence in yourself and who you are as a person, as a man, you won't stand for that. You will Know deep down inside yourself that you are more than just monetary success and you will know who is actually for you. You will be able to recognize that. And one of the many mistakes that successful men make is thinking that they have to use money to buy relationships and buy friendships and listen man, you don't have to buy connection, you don't have to buy love. Because people who are truly for you and truly love the authentic real you won' be there to take from you, just like you aren't there to take from them. Let's say for a minute that you truly feel like you have no value outside of your monetary success. Then dude, you need to work on that. So do some self exploration, do some reflecting, work on your mindset and your confidence. Cultivate self love, level up every aspect of your life and feel good about who you are. The more value you have for yourself, the less you will view the world as just trying to use you. You'll see that your presence is a G gift, that your time is a gift, that your friendship is a gift. Like I said, be so secure in who you are and so confident in who you are that you begin seeing your monetary success and your money. As an added bonus, because it is a lot of these ideologies about how women are only out to get money come from weak unintelligent men who have no depth of being, no wisdom. Weak men are users and that's why they assume that everyone is out to use. Saying that all women just want money is implying that all women want to use men which gives weak men an excuse to use women. Notice that the same men who hate women or have negative views about women, love, marriage and relationships are the same men who treat women like objects. The most notable example is a grown up man child with a loud mouth who gives young men all over the world terrible advice. All while he got his start operating a live cam's pornographic website using and abusing women. Is that the man that you want to take advice from? Or do you want your value in your yourself to be in being an honorable, powerful, strong, respectable man. One who is full of love and light. One who is viewed as a wise king. A lot better than being a loudmouthed, bitter, angry man. Boy, if you ask me, all women want is money is also the broke loser's excuse for sucking. Can't land a beautiful woman because you aren't optimized in your life. It couldn't possibly be your fault. It must be the lady's fault because all they want is money and good looks. As they say, you see how stupid that sounds? And another reason that men hold on to these false beliefs is because they misunderstand a woman's innate desires. This is what I call the misunderstood security you might have heard before. Oh, all she wants is security. And that was painted in a negative light, as if wanting security is a bad thing. Women desire strong protectors and providers. This goes back hundreds, if not thousands of years ago, where you would have had to be a strong protector and provider. You would have had to go out and hunt. You would have had to fight off invaders to the village. If you didn't, then she wouldn't have survived. And that innate drive and des desire in women to have a strong protector and provider in their life still exists. Security equals strong protector, provider, and man. So does she want a broke loser who can't provide her a future of adventure and abundance and security, or does she want a man who can protect her and provide a good future for her and her children? Does that mean that all she wants is money? No, but it's certainly a part of the equation. Now, is that so surprising? And that's going back to saying the money is a bonus. You have your confidence. You know who you are. You know your value as a person and as a man. Plus, you have monetary success and security. You're the whole package, bro. Sure, there are people out there that just want to use, but don't let that stop you from finding a true connection and possibly even the love of your life. Don't let these false beliefs become fears that hold you back from your full potential and from having true, authentic connections. And like I said, dude, your value is not in your money. You are more than that. And if you think that all you have to offer is your money, then you need to work on your mindset. You need to level up some aspects of your life so that you know that you're more than that. You built the empire. You built the success. You built the wealth. Now it's time to build yourself. Now, I know that this is a little bit shorter of an episode this week, but I felt it on my heart to answer this question. It is a complex question, but that's my thoughts on it. And that's what I got for you guys today. If you got something out of this episode, if this episode inspired you in any way, definitely subscribe, stick around, leave a review on the podcast that helps me reach other listeners. Whichever platform you're getting this on, if you're on YouTube, drop a comment, let me know what you got. Out of this. I would love to connect with you. If you're one of those guys who is struggling with your mindset, if you lack confidence, if you want to level up your life, level up your mindset. If you're one of those guys that I mentioned before that you have the monetary success and you're feeling a little bit lost, you know, maybe you even feel lonely and you need to correct some things in your life. I offer mindset coaching. I'm mainly a marriage coach and mentor. That's a, that's the direction that I go in my coaching. But I offer programs as well for mindset and motivation. So if that's something you're into, find the contact form in the link in the description of this podcast episode or this video and we can connect over how to make that happen. And for everybody else listening, there's some links in the description of this podcast episode or video where you can find out more about me, what I do. You can find my books on there. And yeah, that's pretty much that link tree on there is where to find all of my stuff. So check it out. You can sign up for the email list again. It was great to talk to you today day. I love you, I'm proud of you and there are great things in store for you in this life. A life of overflowing abundance awaits you. On the other side of you deciding to make the switch, make the change and level up every aspect of your life, a life of overflowing abundance awaits you. Thank you guys again and I'll catch you on the next one. Have a good week.
