Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: There are a few traits that men who are very successful simply don't have. Watch any of their content and ask yourself, does this guy seem timid and shy? Is he worried about what other people think? Is he striving and trying to be successful and confident? Or does he know his value and his worth, which opens the doors to his success? That's what we're talking about today on the Warrior Kings podcast. Stick around. Hello and welcome to the Warrior Kings Podcast. I'm your host, Michael Riggs, here to assist you on your journey to living a fully optimized, leveled up life as a man. Man. So again, welcome. Welcome to the Warrior Kings podcast. I have a little bit of a different setup today based on just how my schedule worked out. So using a different mic, I hope it sounds good. This is my first time using this mic on the podcast. Hopefully it even sounds better. Right now we're headed into the Christmas season, which for a lot of people is the prime season to look ahead to the new year. You might be getting your New Year's resolutions planned. You might be planning to really go for it in 2025. I know I am. And I really believe, dude, that this is the year for you. This is the big one. This is the one that is going to change everything for you and for you married guys listening. One thing that you really need to level up in the new year is your marriage. And that's what we're doing January 1st with my new book, Warrior Husband. I'm challenging all of my followers and my listeners to dive in January 1st, kicking off the year, right, to improve every aspect of our marriages and get that new bed set you're getting for Christmas broken in with your beautiful wife. That book is available for pre order right now on Amazon and ebook and the physical copy will be available to order on the release day. So if you want the physical copy, definitely set a reminder in your phone, set an alarm or something for January 1st to get that book ordered. And if you want to start reading it right away on January 1st, get that pre order and it will be delivered to your Kindle app on your phone that day. And that book is titled Warrior Husband by Michael Riggs. Today I want to talk to you about knowing your value in a world that shames men for being confident and praises women for showing their butts and for many other reasons. Many men simply don't feel confident and they don't know their value and their worth. For a lot of us, we start out very confident early in life and then something happens around middle school to high school age where these new concepts are introduced. For example, if you're a guy and you're confident in yourself, you're a douchebag, or you're cocky, or you're full of yourself. And I don't know if you've noticed this before, but those guys who reach success early in life are the ones who lacked the ability to feel embarrassed. Perhaps someone told them before that if someone tried to hate on them or put them down or shame them for being confident, that that meant that those people were jealous. And perhaps they took that to heart and they truly believed it. Maybe the evidence in their life was proof enough to them that they were better off confident than succumbing to the judgments and opinions of other people. Who really knows? But whatever it was, whatever causes young men to have confidence and self esteem issues, those things didn't affect these guys at all. There's a sort of shame around being a confident man, being a guy and being confident. And we're sort of brainwashed into this very early in life. For some reason, the world doesn't want men confident. So you might feel in some ways that it's wrong for you to be confident and you might have a whole host of limiting beliefs around this. The problem, problem here is that having a lack of confidence keeps you from reaching your full potential in business, friendships, relationships with women, and pretty much all areas of your life. Let's use women's attraction to you as an example and don't take my word for it. Listen to this clip of my wife. This is from one of our earlier podcast episodes where she's talking about what attracted her to me in the beginning. Roll the clip.
[00:03:33] Speaker B: The ruggedness for sure, and then the confidence, like he pursued, pursued me. But it wasn't like a desperate, eager.
[00:03:42] Speaker A: Watch out for that cord. Watch out for the cord. Watch out.
[00:03:45] Speaker B: Like you pursued me, but it wasn't like that. Eager, desperate, have to get your attention.
So it was more of like a laid back confidence that you had, which caused me to kind of want to know. Want to get your attention, I guess.
[00:03:59] Speaker A: Want to get my attention?
[00:04:00] Speaker B: Yeah, so you had like a laid back confidence that made me want to get your attention. So then, so it was that like magnetism. I just wanted to get to know you. You also like look like a bad boy, but I wanted to get to know who you really were. So yeah, so then it made me want to get to know you to see if you like were that bad boy or if that was just like a contrast in Your look and your personality, which is super attractive when there's like a contrast with look and personality with the bad boy. But then like you're actually like a nice guy. When we first started hanging out, you had like, I guess, confidence again, but it was like a. It wasn't like a try hard confidence. It was almost like a. You acted like I would already like you. And that was attractive because then I was like, oh, okay, yeah, that's.
[00:04:45] Speaker A: That's my whole game. That's. I planned that. I'm just kidding.
[00:04:50] Speaker B: Which is like attractive and like playful too. So then it like it's flirty and fun.
[00:04:56] Speaker A: She said, I presented myself like I already assumed that she would be into me. Think about business and sales. What's the best way to sell? By treating a potential lead like you're trying to convince them to like you and your product or by presenting yourself like you already know that they will want your product and buy it. Think about your interactions with people in the world around you. Are you hoping that you're good enough and that the world will accept you, or do you already assume that you're amazing? Do you love yourself in such a way that everybody else and everything else should be living up to your standards? Everything else should be trying to be cool enough for you? Feeling like other people are above you or better than you is one of the poison ingredients in this self lack recipe. And I have a quick story for you younger dudes listening to this right now. I was at a party once in my late teens and a lot of the people there were like, just graduating, getting ready to go to college or wherever they were going in life. And somehow I ended up sitting with a group of guys who was way outside of my usual circle of friends. And one of the guys in this group was in a very successful local band. And I guess we got on the topic of like the hierarchy, you know, sort of, and I felt the need to give this guy some compliments. And it was in a way that was very obvious that I felt like he was above me. And he said, oh, whatever, dude. Everybody knows Riggs, you were always in some band and dating some girl. Basically the way he was saying it was as if I was faking being humble. And I was actually very confident because to him I was the cool guy. The same way that I thought of him was the way that he thought of me. You never know who your peers are and you never know who looks up to you. You could very well think that you're trying to be cool enough for Somebody who's trying to be cool enough for you. And what if just what if you didn't feel like anyone was on any level and you were just confident in yourself and who you are? How many more opportunities could open up to you? Like that teen story I just gave, for example. Our friend groups felt like we were competing with each other, when in truth we probably could have all been friends. There is no better than people who work for companies. The ones who work their way up and get promotions aren't the ones who kiss the boss's ass. They're the ones who speak confidently to the boss and have ideas that they aren't afraid to share. And they treat the boss as a human, a peer, and one that they just so happen to respect. Striving and trying and impressing gets you nowhere. Confidence and a little of what we call common sense can get you anywhere you want to go. Being your true authentic self gets you everywhere. When it comes to being self conscious or lacking self confidence. Coming from people shaming you, embarrassing you, or putting you down, a lot of people don't realize that the people trying to bring you down from being up aren't confident in themselves and they're trying to bring you down because of their own lack in limitation. If they see something as embarrassing or cringy, it's because they know that they would never have the confidence to go and do that thing. They would feel weird if they displayed that kind of confidence. And a lot of people also don't realize that losers will want to keep you a loser too. That's kind of the way of the loser. So if they see you showing potential, if they see you right rising above them, they will try to bring you back down. So how do you learn to know your value and your worth and become confident in yourself? First, you need to get rid of the care of what other people think. Next, you need to realize that your feelings of lack and your lack of confidence exist only in your own mind. Your perception of yourself is completely different than everyone else's perception of you and everyone else's perception of you has nothing to do with who you really are. Next, you need to crush the false beliefs that you have about yourself and brainwash yourself into believing in yourself. Let's touch on these a little bit. Number one, worrying about what other people think. Are you really going to let the fear of what other people think hold you back in your life? Dude, if I cared what other people thought about me, I wouldn't be living my dream life with my dream wife right now you have to believe in yourself and believe in where you're going and stick to the plan no matter what. And if people have opinions or judgments about it, trust me, they'll feel stupid when you get there and all of your dreams come true. Another thing is people are so worried with themselves and what they're doing that they're probably not even as aware of what you're doing as you think they are. If you decide, decided right now to go after everything that you've ever wanted and to be everything that you've always wanted to be and didn't give a about what anyone thinks about that, trust me, in a couple years you're gonna look back and thank God that you made that decision. Don't concern yourself with the thoughts and opinions and judgments of others. It's wasting your life. Next. Whatever is holding you back from feeling confident in yourself and accepting who you truly are is 100 in your own head. Nobody knows that it's going on but you. A lot of times people make the mistake of thinking that their own version of themselves, the way they themselves as the same version of themselves to everyone else, that everyone has that same perception of them. But the truth is every single person sees you in a totally different way. That's because our own individual perception is our own individual reality. The best you can do is present your best self every day, your most confident self, and let everyone else form their own opinion and version of you in their own perception and reality. And like I said before, it has nothing to do with who you actually are. Technically, it's none of your business. If you shift your own perception of yourself, yourself into one of self love and acceptance and confidence, that's all that matters to you. And trust me, every aspect of your life will benefit from this. Next, you need to overcome false beliefs about yourself and shift them into positives. You need to sort of brainwash yourself into believing in yourself. I like to call these false beliefs life ruining fictitious mental constructs. From the time that we're very little, our reality is being programmed. Everything that we know about the world around us, everything that we know about people, everything that we know about ourselves, it's being programmed into our subconscious and forming our own perception, our own reality. And like I said before, every single person's is different. The negative things you think about yourself and your beliefs around confidence and believing in yourself likely are associated with some root event or an experience that you had in the past. The trick is getting to the root of these false beliefs and realizing that they aren't true and shifting them into a new belief. Belief. Let's say that one of your beliefs is that you're awkward and that you're shy around women. Where does that come from? Because maybe you're not. That's just the story that you're telling yourself. That's what you believe. And start using positive affirmations as they say. Start telling yourself that you're smart and charming and handsome and sexy. Nobody knows your thoughts but you, bro. Say I have magnetism. Tell yourself that you're going to be a multi millionaire. Stop talking shit to yourself in your own head and start boosting yourself up. Nobody is going to make you believe in yourself but you. If you're looking for validation from outside sources, you're never going to get it. That's a hard truth. If you're looking for the money and the cars and the big house and the attention from the ladies and you need all of those things before you can even believe in yourself, you know what's going to happen when you get there. You'll still be unhappy. That's why you hear about all these people that get mega famous or mega successful and they still hate themselves. You have to do the inner work first. It's like gratitude. If you're not happy with what you have right now, you're not going to be happy with what you get later on. You'll always be working for the next level and the next level and the next level level to validate yourself because you haven't truly started loving your authentic, true self yet. This is the same for your love for yourself. If you don't love yourself right now, nothing is going to make you love yourself later on. No matter how much you get. You have to love yourself even when you feel like you have nothing. You have to love yourself and believe in yourself right here, right now. You have to know your value and your worth. And when it comes to knowing your value, I have some tips for you here as well. If you don't want to feel like a loser, stop living like a loser. To know your value, you have to have value and you need to have higher standards. And you might be surprised how many seemingly simple things have a huge impact on your reality and perception. Instead of going to the dumpy gas station in the morning and standing in line with the meth heads, getting their lottery tickets and blunt wraps with their refillable Slurpee cups, go a little further down the street to the nicer gas station. Stop hanging out with low level loser dudes who are going nowhere in life, your reality will be associated with that and you will feel like you are on that level. Take care of yourself. Work out and eat right. Take care of your clothes and keep your environment clean. Anything that causes feelings of shame in your life, get rid of it. Pornography, smoking, alcohol, unhealthy habits. A bad tree will only produce bad fruit. Cultivate moderation in every aspect of your life and learn self control. Read and learn every day. Become a seeker of wisdom. Stop chasing girls you know aren't good for you anyways and seek a high value, good, honest woman. Hold yourself to such high standards that you aren't chasing anyone or anything. Everything is chasing you. And begin, begin seeking God first every day. Like how I slipped that one in there, hit you out of nowhere. Bam. Left hook. The better you get, the higher your value. And the higher your value, the more you will value yourself. Confidence is important in every aspect of life. Whether it be in your relationships, your friendships, your business. Every aspect of your life, man. And the thing is, you have value. You just don't see it in yourself. You have to change your perception of yourself. Like I said, you need to brainwash yourself into believing in yourself. Because there are great things in store for you in this life, bro. All of your dreams, all of your ambitions, everything that you want in life has been placed in your heart by God for a reason. God wants you to have these things. Don't ever believe that he doesn't. Sometimes, you know, the evidence doesn't suggest that those things are coming for us. Because life seems kind of shitty right now. And we don't feel confident right now, right? It's believing that those things are coming and that they will be yours. Believing in yourself. Shifting your identity into who you truly are, who you truly should be. Everything that you were always meant to be. You've just been brainwashed by the world and your experiences and your circumstances to think that you don't have value. But I'm telling you, man, you are way cooler than you even know. And you have more than a lot of people have. It's possible that right now, the life that you are living is someone else's dream life. And they would give almost anything to have the life that you have. And guess what else, bro? It's only going to get better from here. The only place to go is up. Continue to level up your life every single day. Get better every single day in every aspect of your life. And if you screw up today, man, start again tomorrow. It's never too late. It's never over. And you are always headed like. Like, think of it like a graph. It's always an upward trajectory. There is never like dips or down. And it's kind of good here. And then this day wasn't so good. No, we're only going up at this point. That's one thing that I love about this podcast, by the way, is looking at the graphs and just seeing it go up, up, up. Because that's the first thing in my life that I've ever pursued where that's happening. Like, there's never like a dip or a down. It's always just up. So I'm so happy that so many of you guys are finding this and listening to it and taking it as inspiration to level up your lives, to improve every aspect of your lives. Your marriages, your businesses, all of that. You know, I'm so glad to be reaching you because I spent years as a nightmare person, and then I spent years after that improving every aspect of my life and seeking knowledge and wisdom and leveling up my own life in every way possible. And now, you know, I'm so happy to be sharing this information that I've learned on my own journey with you guys, because that's my mission. To help as many men all over the world as possible fully optimize their lives. And in a few years ago, you would not know that I would be here. Trust me. Everyone expected my life to fall apart. Everyone expected for me to just crash and burn and turn into nothing. And instead I decided to learn what it means to be a man, what it means to be a good, honorable man, to turn my life around, to level myself up. I made the decision. Instead of self destructing, I was going to become my dream version of myself. And guess what? Here's another thing, man, I ain't even there yet. I'm only. I don't even feel halfway there yet. I'm still improving my life every single day. And that's another thing that I love about being here talking to you guys is that we're all kind of doing it together, right? Like, we're all on different stages in our journey, but we're on the journey together. And I think that that's super cool. You know, I don't claim to know everything. I don't claim to be an absolute expert in anything except marriage and relationships. I feel like I'm pretty much an expert in that. But other than that, like, I'm still struggling every day to correct my own path, correct my own life. You know, I'm just sharing with you guys What I have learned along the way, which is a lot because I put a lot of hours into self improvement, seeking wisdom, seeking knowledge and stuff like that. But I just want you to know that we're in this together. You understand what I'm saying? Super happy and grateful to have this platform to talk to you guys. Happy to see it grow every single day. Happy to see those numbers grow up. Because every, every single one of those numbers is like another guy that we reached and maybe I helped his life in some way, you know? Super awesome. So thank you guys for reaching out to me. Those of you who have, it's super awesome to know that I'm helping you in your life and let's just keep going, man. Like I said, it's only up from here. But yeah. Know your value, know your worth. Don't settle for less. Hold yourself to higher standards. Know that it's okay to be confident. Don't let anybody shame you or put you down for say, dude, I am the shit. I'm a king. I'm the king of my kingdom, you know? You know what? If the perception is that you're a cocky douchebag and that's something that you're afraid of, come to terms with that and be like, yeah, I'm a cocky douchebag. Look at me living my dream life, dude. Nobody can take that away from me, you know? But yeah, man, I love you. I'm proud of you. And there are great things in store for you in this life. I truly believe it. You listening to this right now? A life of overflowing abundance awaits you as soon as you make the decision to flip the switch, to step over that edge, to go outside of your comfort zone and level up every aspect of your life. Great things are in store for you. A great destiny awaits you. There is a calling and purpose for your life. I truly believe it. Thank you guys for listening and I'll catch you on the next one. Thanks, guys.
[00:18:22] Speaker B: Bye.
