Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] When you get married, when you step into that covenant, you don't just become a team, you become co creators of a shared life. You're no longer building a life alone. Everything you say, everything you speak becomes part of the atmosphere that you and your wife are building together. You are literally shaping your shared reality with your words. And so is she, if it's your first time here. My name is Michael Riggs. I'm a full time author, entrepreneur, men's personal development and marriage mentor, husband and father of five. And I teach men all over the world how to live fully optimized, leveled up lives. So if that's something you're into, definitely subscribe to this channel, subscribe to this podcast, wherever you're getting this. And today we're talking about the power of your words and how your speech is either building your dream life with your wife or making that dream life fall apart before it even happens. Stick around. Hello and welcome to the Warrior Kings podcast. I'm your host, Michael Riggs, here to assist you on your journey to living a fully optimized, leveled up life as a man. So again, welcome and welcome back to the podcast. It's great to be here today. It's great to talk to you today. Like I said, today we're talking about the power of your words and your speech. So let's dive right into the episode. If you're always talking about what's wrong, if you're always speaking like, life is hard, money is tight, you're tired, stressed, burned out, guess what? You're actually creating a negative, stressful and heavy world and she has to live in it with you. It doesn't matter if you don't mean anything by it. Words carry energy, they carry weight. They shape perception. Your wife starts to feel anxious even when nothing bad is actually happening in the moment. So today I want to present sort of a mantra to you and a concept that will be a reminder to you to only speak positive and kind things to your wife. And that mantra and concept is called speak life into your wife. When you speak to your wife, do you unload all of your stresses, your worries, or even your work troubles? Or do you speak optimistically about the future that you're building together? Because whichever way you choose to speak to her is in direct correlation to that future that you are building, what it's going to look like. And you are either building a future of stress and struggles or you are building a future of adventure and abundance. That's really what it comes down to. And your job as a Husband isn't to dump stress, it's to bring peace. When you speak from faith, from confidence, from grounded strength, your home becomes a place of peace. You don't need to deny reality, but you don't need to magnify the negative either. Instead of saying, I don't know how we're gonna make it, say, we always find a way. We're resilient, God's got our back, instead of man. I'm so overwhelmed a lot, but I'm built for this. One step at a time. Speak strength. Speak life. Speak like the king of your home, the chief of the tribe. Speak like a wise king would. Listen, man. What you choose to focus on becomes your experience in life. And what you speak out loud reinforces it. So when you speak negativity, you're only multiplying stress. And not just for you, but for your wife too. And that's not leadership, that is spiritual pollution. Listen, man, there is great, great power in words and speech, no matter what believe in. And it's not only deeply spiritual, but it's also psychological. What you choose to put your attention on, what you choose to speak is shaping your inner world and your outer reality. And this isn't woo woo new age stuff either, it's just a fact. Your perception, your perspective, your attitude is shaping the reality that you were experiencing. One person's paradise is another person's hell. And it's all based on how they're perceiving it. And you can consider that your speech, your words, are shaping your wife's internal reality as well and her perception of life. Are you creating safety and security and positivity with your words? Or are you reinforcing fear, uncertainty, doubt? What you need to do, what you should be doing, is building a culture of positivity in your home. You want your wife to feel safe with you. You want her to feel secure. You want her to look forward to hearing your voice. Then train your tongue to speak life. Even when you're tired, even when you're frustrated. That's where real discipline kicks in. Train yourself to speak with intention. When the thought into your head that you need to express yourself or vent or say something negative or express how stressed or worried or anxious you are about any situation or any circumstance in life. Catch yourself from doing that. Transform what you were gonna say into something positive, that is speaking life into your wife. Look, there's enough negativity out there already. You don't need to bring it into your home with your words. No more. We can't afford that. This Always happens to us. I'm just not feeling it lately. All that kind of negative talk those phrases seem.
[00:04:47] But they become the whole. That is the perception of the reality for you and your wife. That's how you're experiencing life. Those things compound and build over time. Those small phrases, they become the big picture. We don't have enough money. Nothing ever works out for us. I'm so stressed with work, I can't catch a break. All that kind of stuff and your wife hears everything. When you're low on money and you're having a bad month, do you say, I'm broke, we're broke, we can't afford that. Do you say, why does everything have to be so hard all the time? There is power in that and it's likely you will see more, more of that because you are constantly reinforcing it as the truth. When you're frustrated or facing challenges in life, do you say things like, I can't get ahead. This is an impossible situation. Everywhere I turn, there are walls in front of me. There is power in those words, and it is likely that you will see more of that because you are reinforcing it and speaking it as so hey guys, I just want to cut into the episode here for a quick minute to tell you about my book, Warrior Husband, how to be a better husband and save your marriage. This book came out on January 1st, and already thousands of guys all over world have dove into this journey to transform their marriage into their dream marriage. A happy, thriving marriage. I put almost everything that I know about love, marriage and relationships and how to have a happy, thriving marriage into this one book. I say almost everything I know because I've learned some new things since then. I used to say I put everything I know about marriage and relationships into this one book. But this book is available right now in ebook, paperback, and audiobook. There's a link in the description of this podcast episode if you want to grab a copy of this. And a huge, huge thank you to everyone who got a copy of this book already. I pray that it is transforming your marriage that is transforming your life. If you got it sitting on your bookshelf or something and you haven't dove into it yet, get on that, dude. You need to read this book. Guys. Message me almost every day telling me how this book and my podcast has transformed their marriage and their life. And that's my spiel. Let's get right back into the episode. So here's what you need to do. You need to speak what you want to multiply Speak love, Speak progress. Speak gratitude. Say things like, we're building something beautiful. I love this life we have. You are a good wife and a good mommy. You're so beautiful. I'm so glad I get to do this life with you. And the more you say those things, the more they become true. If times are tough, speak optimistically about the future, the life that you're building. The next chapter, the dream life. Build her internal world with security, comfort and safety. Make her believe in that dream life, in that dream future, instead of making her believe that everything is impossible and nothing is going to work out. Another way to speak life into your wife is to compliment her daily. And this is where so many men miss it. Compliment her constantly. I don't care if you've been married two years or 20 years. Make her feel seen and valued and cherished. A woman who feels beautiful acts differently. When you regularly tell your wife things like, you're beautiful. I love that dress on you. You make this house a home. You're the best wife and mama on planet Earth. I'm so proud of you. She will light up. Her confidence rises, her radiance increases, and her joy multiplies. And it changes the way she shows up in the marri. Trust me. Women thrive on compliments and praise. That's how they grow. Men grow by overcoming challenges and adversity. So often we make the mistake of challenging women, speaking to them how we like to be spoken to. And this is a huge mistake. Challenging her will only push her away. And another thing is, don't assume. Say it. Don't be the guy who says, she already knows how I feel. That's weak thinking. She might know it, but she needs to hear it. It's a woman's nature and she deserves to hear it from you. Not just on holidays, not just in bed daily. And here's one quick habit that I recommend. Every day, give your wife one sincere compliment. Just one sentence. Text it to her. Whisper it to her while she's making coffee. Tell her before bed. And this isn't corny. This is leadership. Speak life over your wife like it's your job. Because it is. And another thing is, man, the more you do this, the more natural it will feel and become. If you're someone who doesn't often speak positively or pay your wife compliments, it might feel weird at first, but the more you do this, you won't be trying to do it anymore. It will just be the norm. And what happens if you don't? If you don't speak life into your wife, the world will speak something else into her insecurity, shame, comparison, pressure. She's already facing that on a daily basis. Your voice should be the loudest voice of love and affirmation in her life. You should be the reason she knows she's beautiful. You are her validation, not the world. You should be the reason she knows she is secure and safe and that that life of adventure and abundance is on the horizon. As the husband, you set the temperature, the home with your words. Are you speaking from vision or frustration? Are you planting seeds of peace or are you pouring gasoline on anxiety? So listen, man, I have a challenge for you this week. This week, I want you to audit your language for the next seven days. Eliminate negative speech around your wife entirely and replace it with encouragement, gratitude, compliments, and vision. Watch what happens and then report back to me. I love hearing from you guys and make sure that you subscribe to this podcast or this YouTube channel while you're here. And I can't stress it enough, man, your words have power. Shape her inner world with love, not negativity. And this will reshape your inner world and your reality. In the process, speak life into your wife. That is what a warrior king does. You don't just protect her with strength. You protect her with your words. You lead with peace. You build your home with the power of your voice. Be the man whose words bring light, not pressure, not chaos, not fear. And anytime you feel like expressing your negativity or speaking it out loud, remember that mantra. Speak life into your wife. So that's what I got for you guys today. I hope you got something out of this message. I hope that this episode inspired you. Definitely get in contact with me. Let me know how this podcast, how this episode is helping you transform your marriage and your life. Like I said, I love hearing from you guys. It helps me keep doing this. If you want to know more about me and what I do, there's some links down in the description of this podcast episode or this video where you can find my link tree. It has everything that I do on there. You can find my books Warrior Husband and Warrior King, and you can find me on all of social platforms as well as get in touch with me through email. There's also a link on there called Buy me a Coffee. If you want to essentially buy me a coffee, which is donating towards this podcast, helping us keep creating it, you know, and I really appreciate all you who have donated on there. That's super awesome. Thank you so much. And yeah, it's great to be back. It's great to talk to you guys today. Now get out there. Kill it. Level up every aspect of your life. A life of overflowing abundance awaits you. I love you. I'm proud of you. Have a good week. Don't forget that challenge. Speak life into your wife for the next seven days. Get rid of next negative thinking. Get rid of negative speech. Most importantly, a life of overflowing abundance awaits you. On the other side of you deciding to make the switch, make the change, and level up every aspect of your life. A life of overflowing abundance awaits you. And I'll catch you guys on the next one. Thank you, guys. Bye.
